The gut impulse to attack or flee seems to summarily overrule obeying Christ’s command or heeding the principle it teaches.
“We’re talking about a business matter; not a sin” we argue. Then follows a decision to punish, retaliate or quit, without giving the offender an opportunity of input.
There is wisdom in hearing the private response of the one who has given offense. Failing to grant the opportunity of response is to throw away a learning opportunity for both sides.
The sooner Christians take heed and steer the boat the way Jesus instructs, or according to the principles he illustrates in His commands, the sooner our ship will arrive at the destination he intends - with no crew members thrown overboard.
